Divorce can be a difficult legal matter to go through because it involves many legal issues and so many emotional issues. The court that handles family law tends to be a compassionate court, but it is still a court and the rules of the court must be followed. This is why you need an experienced divorce lawyer to represent you.
You also want to be sure that you get everything you are entitled to. When each spouse has an experienced attorney the playing field tends to be more level. The attorneys each know the divorce and child custody laws of New York, so it is unlikely that one attorney can out maneuver the other attorney.
Of course, each spouse must follow the directions and advice of their attorney otherwise the attorney can loose an edge and loose a valuable consideration that their client thought to be important. Divorce actions tend to bring out the worse in people and cause them to act in a hostile manner which may bring about a result contrary to what they want and what their attorney has been working for.
Often, parties to a divorce make deals with their spouse that they have not discussed with their attorney, and this can create major problems. Sympathy for the other spouse does not belong in a divorce proceeding, and neither does hostility. The time for sympathy was well before the marriage broke apart.
All too often, the children are used a weapons in the battle, and no aspect of a divorce could do more harm than using the children to return the fire at the spouse. Children suffer so much in a divorce simply because their parents will not be together again. Then a parent or both parents throw in the nasty and often false accusations. The Divorce Lawyer in Long Island, NY is particularly capable of instructing parents on how to handle the emotions of the children. A wise parent or parents will never use the children against the other spouse. Treating the children as being loved by both parents who are both good people will pay off very well in the years to come.
Discuss your plans for a divorce with the Law Office of Alan Raymond Barr P.C. so you can become aware of every aspect of obtaining a divorce and for some advice on how the family can survive the divorce.